Transgender Day of Remembrance
20 November 2013
As it is in both the civilian community and the military community - to be forgotten is worse than death.
High school, college, blue/white collar industries show and present a fight to the death is all that matters in post-industrial society. In the military, to let one Soldier, Marine, Sailor, Airman down, you let everyone down. When the college graduate grows concerned and asks “where is his job,” the military gives you a job, training, and invaluable development that is deeply sought out in the civilian community. However, something also binds the two communities together - forgetfulness.
Within both communities, they forget they have a group of citizens that doesn’t just seek but lead. They forget a group of people who still cannot serve in the military and cannot hold a job without fear of losing their job, their life, their identity, or losing what they hold the dearest to.
Both in our country and all over the world, many lives have been destroyed and lost because they cannot live as what others think they are. Many children, adults, parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, and lovers all have been murdered, raped, or left for dead in the most remote places you could ever find. All hurt for the same reason - for being different. Others who see their daughter, is actually their son. Others see their husband, who happened to have been assigned female at birth. Others who see a pretty girl at the local college, was forced to live as a boy. Because of these differences, they were instead seen as someone who should be forgotten. Someone who should vanish. Or someone who shouldn’t ever have been born.
Today isn’t just about mourning those who died for being a part of the Transgender Spectrum, for being a part of the greater LGBT*, but it is a day to not forget them. A day to not forget those whose lives were cut short and to not forget those who are still alive, in hopes to learn those dark lessons we as a society cannot completely learn.
For the civilian community: We hope that you can shed some light on those who we lost and the families shattered because of the ignorance and violence in others.
For the military community: In hope that you don’t forget about us.
We helped build this nation. We helped defend this front and continue to do so to this day. While our Commander-in-Chief may have forgotten our continuing service to our nation, we hope that you don’t forget who you serve with. Do not forget that we serve alongside you. That we are you.
And don’t forget it.
By: SPART*A Trans member currently serving.